There was a season in my counseling room where I heard the same 2 sentences every week:
From the married: “I don’t think we’ll make it.”
From the unmarried: “I don’t think it’ll ever happen for me.”
Two different pains. Same root.
“God, did You forget me?”
But here’s what I’ve learned after 15 years of walking with couples and singles:
God specializes in stories that look dead on Friday and resurrected on Sunday.
This is a story of hope for you — whether you have a ring on your finger or not.
PART 1: FOR THE MARRIED PERSON WHO FEELS HOPELESS
Meet Tunde and Ada. Married 8 years.
From the outside: 2 kids, good jobs, church every Sunday.
On the inside: roommates. Silent dinners. Debt. Betrayal.
Ada found messages on Tunde’s phone. Tunde felt like a failure and shut down.
For 6 months they lived in the same house and grieved alone.
Ada told me, “I pray and nothing changes. Is this it?”
Tunde said, “I messed up too bad. God can’t fix this.”
They were 1 argument away from divorce papers.
The Turning Point
One night, Ada was reading Psalm 147:3 “He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.”
She said, “God, if You can heal me, do it. Even if he never changes.”
Tunde, on his own, opened to Joel 2:25 “I will restore to you the years that the swarming locust has eaten.”
He broke. He said, “God, I’ve eaten years. Restore us.”
They didn’t fix everything that week.
But they started 3 things:
Honesty - No more secrets. Hard questions, honest answers.
Counseling - A pastor walked with them.
Prayer - 60 seconds together at night, even when it was awkward.
2 years later?
Not perfect. But they’re best friends again. They lead a marriage class now.
Ada told me last month: “The thing that almost killed us is now what God uses to help other couples.”
Hope for you if you’re married:
Your story isn’t over. God writes in ashes. Isaiah 61:3
The winter season doesn’t mean spring won’t come. Don’t quit in winter.
PART 2: FOR THE UNMARRIED PERSON WHO FEELS FORGOTTEN
Meet Chioma. 34. Godly, kind, serving in church.
Every wedding she attends, someone asks, “So when is it your turn?”
Her group chat is full of baby pictures. Her heart is full of questions.
She prayed for 10 years. Fasted. Served.
And watched friends get married, divorced, and married again.
She told God, “Did You skip me?”
The Turning Point
One Sunday, her pastor preached from Isaiah 54:5 “For your Maker is your husband, the Lord of hosts is His name.”
Chioma cried the whole service. Not because she gave up on marriage.
But because she realized: “I’ve been waiting on a man to complete me, when God already calls me complete in Him.”
She stopped chasing. Started healing.
Started friendships without pressure. Started serving without bitterness.
Started trusting that God’s “no” or “not yet” is still love.
18 months later, she met Emeka. Not on an app. At a service project.
They became friends first. They prayed together. They waited on God together.
They’re getting married next year.
But Chioma says: “Even if it was never him, I would still be okay. Because I learned I’m already loved.”
Hope for you if you’re unmarried:
Your worth isn’t in a relationship status.
God is not late. He’s not careless. He sees you.
And the right covenant is worth waiting for. Ecclesiastes 3:11 “He makes all things beautiful in His time.”
WHAT BOTH STORIES TEACH US
Whether you’re married or single, here are 3 truths to hold:
1. God Is The Author, Not You
You can’t force a marriage to work. You can’t force someone to propose.
But you can surrender the pen to God. Proverbs 3:5-6
2. Healing Comes Before Happily Ever After
Tunde and Ada had to heal before they could love well.
Chioma had to heal before she could date well.
Don’t rush the healing. God is doing something in the waiting.
3. Your Pain Has Purpose
Romans 8:28 “In all things God works for the good of those who love Him.”
The marriage God restores becomes ministry.
The singleness God sustains becomes strength.
Nothing is wasted.
A PRAYER OF HOPE FOR YOU TODAY
If you’re married and tired:
“God, breathe on our home. Restore what the enemy stole. Teach us to talk, forgive, and choose each other again. Be the 3rd cord in our marriage.”
If you’re unmarried and waiting:
“God, heal my heart. Remove bitterness. Help me trust Your timing. Prepare me and prepare the right person. Let me be whole in You first.”
Final Word
Hope doesn’t ignore pain. Hope looks at the pain and says, “God is still here.”
To the married: Don’t give up. God restores.
To the unmarried: Don’t settle. God provides.
To both: You are deeply loved, deeply seen, and your story is still being written.
Read more stories of God’s restoration here:
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Which part of this story spoke to you most? Married or unmarried, drop a ❤️ below.
Let’s believe God together.
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