5 hard truth about marriage nobody tells/life reality answer

Marriage isn't just romance,here are 5 hard realities about marriage that are tough to admit but will save your relationship if you face them early.

Marriage start with vows, cake and "happily ever after"

Reality starts the next morning when someone forget to take out the trash.

I don't talk about hard part, I only post the highlights.

But if you are going into marriage or in the middle of it, you deserve the truth.not to scare you but to prepare you.

Here are 5 reality in marriage that are hard to say out loud but understanding them will make your relationship stronger 

1  love alone won't fix everything:

You can love your spouse like crazy and still argue and fight about money,chores, or your mother in-law,

Love is foundation, but respect, communication and teamwork are what keeps the house standing when bill pie up or stress hit ,I love you doesn't wash dishes or budget rent.

Reality check:marry someone you like as a teammate, not just someone you are in love with, love keeps you together, teamwork keeps you "sane".

2 attraction have seasons:

Year1: you can't keep hands off each other 

Year 5:one of you is already tired, sick, with 3 days of no shower.

That drop in butterflies is normal😁,stress, kids, work, weight changes, exhaustion, 

Reality check:marriage isn't built on constant attraction,it is built on commitment during ordinary seasons.

Choosing your spouse on a boring Sunday matters more than grand Christmas celebration 

3  you married her problem too:

You didn't just marry a person, you married their childhood wounds, their ideas of " clean", that small things about how they handle conflict?,it can come from their parents. That weird reaction to money? from their past.

Reality check:you can't change their past but you can decide together how it affects your future --- talk about it before it becomes silent resentment.

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4 you will feel lonely even in marriage:

This is the hardest one to adi, you can be in the same bed and feel world apart 

Some night, you will scroll your phone instead of talking, some weeks you will feel like roommate, not lovers, 

That doesn't mean you married wrong, it means you are human 

Reality check:loneliness in marriage isn't a death sentence, it is a signal say "I feel distant" with respect Instead of pretending everything is fine, the couple who last through the quiet seasons,are wise.

5  marriage is a work, not just magic:

Some people lied, that marriage is 24/7 enjoyment.

It is listening when you are hurt

It is letting go of winning the argument, easy marriage don't exist.

Easy=two selfish people ignoring problem 

Strong marriage=two people choosing "us" over "me" everyday.

Reality check:the work is worth it. But only if both people show up.

Final truth:invite Jesus in your marriage 

Conclusion; this things out loud doesn't make marriage ugly, it makes it real.

The couple who last aren't the one with zero problem, they are the one who face the hard truth together and still choose each other.

If you are struggling with any of these, you are not broken, you are normal and you are not alone.

What about you, which of this hit closet to home?, drop it in the comments, let talk about real marriage not just online version.